10 Common Marriage Mistakes

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Marriage is one of the best parts of life and also one of the most challenging. I hope the list below will be helpful. These were put together by Mark Beaird who is a counselor in North Alabama. He has been a great friend to Courageous Church since we started. If you need help with your marriage he is the man!

What might you add to this list?

10 Common Marriage Mistakes 

(In no particular order) 

As a marriage counselor, these are the ten common mistakes I see married couples making:

1. They forget God 

a. God is the 3rd person in every relationship—don’t ignore Him

b. Spiritual bonds are as important as emotional bonds

2. They forget each other

a. They forget the basic needs of the other

b. They forget each wants to be #1 in the eyes of the other

3. They are unaware of or forget the basic need of the other 

a. He wants to be significant

b. She wants to be secure

4. They forget to have fun together 

a. Shared experiences create bonds

b. Mindless fun is just fun! Having fun is creating memories.

5. They forget to share the load 

a. They dump when they should divide 

b. The burden is halved when it is shared

6. They look to others outside the marriage for emotional support 

a. No one outside your marriage should be in your marriage

b. Constantly looking to others prevents us from looking to one another

7. They are too casual or too conservative with money 

a. Money problems can cause a great deal of stress

b. However, investing in your marriage and family is worth it

8. They forget they are on the same team 

a. This leads to withdrawing and isolating—which can lead to being secretive

b. They view themselves more as an individual than as a couple

9. They try to have the perfect marriage 

a. They idealize marriage

b. They compare their marriage

10. They give up on intimacy 

a. Hugging, hand-holding, snuggling becomes less frequent

b. Sex becomes routine and less romantic

 

© 2012 Mark Beaird, LPC, NCC – www.markbeaird.org

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I am a pastor, church planter, leader, and father. I have been blessed to be the founding pastor of Courageous Church. I spend much of my time seeking to help others take their next step in growth and leadership. I am the main visionary architect and communicator for Courageous. I love spending time with my family and because of them I am blessed beyond imagination. I believe I have the best l life possible.

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